In 2020 let’s all resolve to take ownership for our actions. Everything from what we do, to the words we say.
We can demonstrate ownership in all facets of our lives: relationships with our loved ones, professional relationships, and anybody in our community.
🔥OWNERSHIP IS A FORM OF EMPOWERMENT 🔥
Taking ownership is another way of standing tall in the world. A way of claiming our space. Of being authentic and real.
The second we attempt to pass the buck, we are handing over our power. 😔
The most effective way we can demonstrate ownership for our actions is learning how to apologize effectively. We each make hundreds of mistakes a day. But how often do we take the time to own up to them? To clean up our messes. To learn from them. And grow. 🔥🔥🔥
Here’s what to do when making an apology:
• Express your sorrow: "I’m sorry for..."
• Own your guilt: "I was wrong when I..."
• Name your specific wrongs: "I did x, y, and z…"
• Articulate the impact of your actions: "I know that I hurt you when I...and it sounds like the consequences were..."
• Make amends: "What can I do to make this right?" (and then do it)
Here’s what NOT to do when making an apology: • Don’t use “if statements”: "Sorry if I…" • Don’t try to shift the blame or defend yourself: "I know I did x,y, and z, but you…" • Don’t use the passive voice: "I'm sorry you were offended…" This process can seem time-consuming, cumbersome, and uncomfortable at first. But it’s a practice, not a talent. It can be learned, honed, and improved. 😍 And even more importantly, the results will speak for themselves. I think you will find when you take the time to thoroughly and vulnerable own you actions, you will garner more trust from your loved ones, co-workers, and pretty much everyone in your social orbit.
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